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Darkness and Light, Truth and Love

I have spent a good chunk of this week reading. About controversial topics. Online. This is a very dangerous and probably not very bright thing to do. I am not naïve enough to think that there was once an idyllic time where people consistently and patiently reasoned calmly with one another about issues of deep import, but I also know that while the internet has certainly made human discourse possible on a much broader level that at any other point in human history, it has almost certainly not improved the quality of said discourse. Pick your issue and you will almost certainly find that you can quite literally drown in information and opinions, much of it mean-spirited, polarizing, intemperate, and simplistic. 

I find this frustrating—very frustrating. I don’t like feeling like I am always being sold something or that I am somehow being manipulated. I don’t like the ease with which we tend to embrace unambiguous narratives of darkness and light. I don’t like how the voicing of any reservations with the prevailing orthodoxy on either side of an issue seems to instantly lead to being placed in a box from which there is no escape.

Again, pick your issue. Right now, the Canadian media is dominated by commentary on the “Idle No More” movement which is seeking to raise the profile of the plight of Canada’s Indigenous population and to seek a more just and equitable future for all involved. Chief Theresa Spence of the Attawapiskat First Nation in Northern Ontario has been on a hunger strike since December 11 in an attempt to secure a meeting with Canadian PM Stephen Harper about treaty promises and legislation. Not surprisingly, opinions in Canada are very divided on the legitimacy of Chief Spence’s protest and of the Idle No More movement in general.

But of course, the issue is very complex on a number of levels. The Canadian government clearly could be doing more and answering for the living conditions on First Nations reserves across the country. Equally clearly, there is corruption and mismanagement from leadership within these communities as well. Clearly, Canada’s historical “relationship” with its First Nations is enormously troubling and the government has much to apologize for and work to redress. Equally clearly, First Nations communities have a responsibility (and a desire!) to be the architects of their own way forward. Behind each of these statements lies a whole host of thorny historical, ethical, and political questions that take time and effort to even begin to understand. It’s complicated.

But, again, in so much of the reporting and commentary on this issue, the issues are black and white. One side is right and the other is wrong. In certain circles, if someone expresses even a hint of support for the government’s policies, they are anti-First Nations or closet-colonialists or racist or whatever. And, in other circles, an expression of affirmation for any part of the Idle No More movement is tantamount to affirming a “welfare state” or being anti-capitalist or “un-Canadian” or whatever. Darkness and light. You’re either for us or against us. Right or wrong. Our team or theirs. Plant your flag in the ground and pick your side.

The same thing happens no matter what the issue—environmentalism, gay rights, pacifism, gun control, you name it. And of course, this phenomenon is just as prominent in the church. The atonement, pluralism, the scope of salvation, the question of hell, the nature of the sacraments. Pick your side and God help you if you say anything that might possibly be construed as supporting the other! We don’t do nuance on the Internet. We don’t do complexity or patience or measured responses. We certainly don’t do “I would like to leave the door open for now while I learn more about this!” There’s no time for that. And so, we pick our sides and then we bolster, defend, attack, construe the other side in the worst possible light and ourselves in the best. Darkness and light.

In Ephesians 4, Paul urges the church in Ephesus to “speak the truth in love” (4:15). It is a passage that has frequently been used (and abused!) to provide justification for telling people what we think about them (usually something negative) and then spiritualizing this is as somehow the “loving” thing to do. But it seems clear to me that there is an important connection that Paul wants us to make between love, truth, and maturity.

Mature people are not blown around by every opinion masquerading as fact, by every simplistic narrative, every character assassination, every failure to countenance complexity and nuance. Mature people can say, “You know I’m not really sure about that so I’d better reserve judgment.” Mature people believe that love and truth belong together. Mature people are convinced that truth is not a weapon to beat each other with or a sound bite to play political games with. Mature people realize that the truth is big and wide and complicated and that human beings are profoundly limited creatures whose tendency is always to embrace what makes us feel good or reinforces what we already think. Mature people, I think, realize that for creatures such as us, truth without love can quite easily become a very dangerous and eminently corruptible thing. Mature people realize that truth is too important to separate from love.

Perhaps among the lessons to be learned from observing and participating in online conversation about controversial topics is that we have some growing up to do.

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  1. Kerby #

    Amen. Our attempts to live lives “full of grace and truth” should be modeled after the (Chalcedonian definition of the) incarnation: 100% of both. The mystery and paradox of God’s revelation should, by definition, make us people of humility AND strong conviction.

    January 10, 2013
    • Can’t say I was thinking of Chalcedon when I wrote this, but the shoe certainly fits! Thanks, Kerby.

      January 10, 2013
  2. Thanks for this Ryan, and you’re right, we do need to grow up a little, me included.

    The challenge for me is that I am a curious type: I want to learn and there’s a lot of ‘noise’ out here. It can throw one into a frenzy, or depression- depending on how we’re wired I guess.

    It’s been put to me that perhaps the best place to start when I’m looking into an issue, is to discover what my bias is and once I’ve wrestled with that a bit, I might be able to look at or hear from any number of ‘camps’ with less need to read into/’adjust’ information to suit my emotional needs. (I hope that makes sense lol!)

    It’s hard on the ego (for me anyway:) to admit I would have to keep an eye out for bias – I would rather see myself as an independent thinker who got that way by practicing ‘clarity’ – but this just isn’t true. I have glasses on like everyone else- still It is possible to minimize the damage ‘love of certitude’ can cause. We can accept we have difficulty being objective and work toward a better way of seeing and thinking. Our interactions with people who disagree with us can begin to look a lot less like a fight in the school-yard and more like a conversation worth having 🙂

    January 18, 2013
    • These are wise words indeed. I think that acknowledging and understanding our biases is crucial when sorting through any issue. Hard on the ego, as you say, but crucial, I think, if we are to avoid the polarities that are often presented to us in the media.

      Thanks for your comment.

      January 18, 2013
  3. mike #

    …Great meditation,Ryan.Your skill at articulating complex thoughts is so impressive.
    I think as we develop Emotional Intelligence we are more able to step back,so to speak,and not be lured into the bloody fray by the spirit of contention that seems to possess all who choose to enter the public worlds of religion/politics/sports..etc etc. And I see the medium of TV as being notorious for proliferating this polarizing contentious spirit among the unsuspecting masses.

    January 18, 2013
    • Thank you, Mike. I absolutely share your sentiments about our media’s proliferation of a polarizing and contentious spirit—and of the need for emotional intelligence and self-awareness in our response.

      January 19, 2013

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