“I’m a Person with No Address”
I was sitting in a hospital room this morning with a dear old saint whose last few years have involved being shuffled from home to home, to the hospital and back again, and whose next destination is unclear. At one point, this person looked at me with a mixture of sadness, resignation, and nearly defeated longing and said, “I’m a person with no address.”
I walked through the hospital hallways, past the innumerable falling apart bodies for whom the aggregate of these sterile white walls and beeping monitors and anguished cries and faux food housed in plastic might represent their final address. I thought about how hard it must be to feel like all your belonging and permanence in the world has been used up, to feel like you are little more than a problem to deal with, one more sad soul to be shuffled efficiently off toward death.
I thought about the Syrian families that we are hoping to welcome to Lethbridge very soon. I thought about the things they have seen, the things they have experienced, things that I, who have only every known belonging, can scarcely imagine. I thought about what it must be like to be constantly drifting across borders, searching for security, for welcome, for answers, for direction. I thought about what it must be like to feel like you don’t belong anywhere, like you are unwanted, discarded, incidental to the machinations of violence and business-as-usual politicking of a world gone mad.
I thought about a recent time when I was sitting at a boardroom table with a Syrian woman as we attempted to finalize the application documents to bring her family to Lethbridge. We had puzzled over the portion of the forms that required an “address.” “What can I put here?” she asked me. “They are in Lebanon, living in a camp. They have no address.” We were told by the people who know about such things to just find an address for them. Tell them to walk to the nearest intersection that has a street number and write it down. Go to the nearest post office. Find someone they know who has a house or a mailing address. The government needs somewhere to send the documents. They need an address.
Yes, they need an address. We all do.
It’s an interesting little word, address. The word admits of more than one meaning, of course. As a noun, it can refer simply to a place. A place that says, This is where I can be reached. This is where I belong. This is where the things and the people and the memories and markers that make me me are to be found. This is where I locate myself. But “address” can also be used as a verb. We address one another as human beings. We reach out, we speak words of comfort and hope, we provide instruction and guidance, we encourage and sustain and accept and welcome. And it seems to me that address as a verb is, at its best (for we can always address one another in false and damaging ways, as well), vitally connected to the things we associate with address as a noun. In addressing one another as people, whether we are warehoused with the broken down and dying or fleeing violence in desperate search a new home, we say, you belong somewhere in this world, you matter, you are not forgotten.
Sometimes it can take a heroic effort of the will to sustain the conviction that there is anything special about human beings. There are so many of us, after all, and our stories are so achingly familiar. We look at the scope of human suffering in Syria or at the more mundane tragedies of an everyday trip to the hospital, and it can be very easy to think, “Well, this is our fate. We march across the earth’s stage for a few decades, we encounter joy, we love, we hate, we hope, we are disappointed, we long, we struggle, we expire.” What’s one more face in an ocean of faces struggling to find a home? What’s one more breaking down body when all bodies break down eventually?
But we are stubborn animals, aren’t we? We cling to this conviction that we are worthy of an address, both as noun and verb. We refuse to accept that we are unworthy of a place to locate ourselves as human beings, fearfully and wonderfully made, right to the end. And we long to be the recipients of good words—from other human beings, from God—that acknowledge us as nothing less than what we are: bearers of hope and promise and inhabiters of stories with chapters yet untold.
We refuse to live unaddressed lives.
The season of Advent is upon us—the season where our hopes and fears begin to be steered cradle-ward, toward the coming of a child. And is this not the message of the Incarnation? That God makes his address (noun) among ordinary human beings in an ordinary human body. That God addresses us (verb) in the person of Jesus, the child whose first experience of the world would be that of a refugee, who as an adult had no place to lay his head, who in his life and death and resurrection taught us that God himself is our final fixed address (noun and verb)—the one who locates us in Him and summons us Godward with the very words of life.
I appreciate the hope found in your last paragraph and while this may be true of some for others thoughts of being, ” addressed” have long vanished. My experiences with the warehoused, waiting to die, told me a far more desperate story of people suffering as much from human neglect as from their terminal conditions. The only respite seems to be quite near the end as people let go of their lives and transition into physical death.
Capitalism as we have developed it has become a social construct that devalues all human life for the sake of material wealth. We have traded human dignity and decency for money and the things it buys. For many we serve both Mamnon and God.
….”and they were selling the property and goods and dividing them amongst all as any had need”….until we choose this lifestyle over capitalism the poignant, heartbreaking realities you describe in this post will only deepen and spread.
The institutionalization of the elderly is something that is difficult to see, on so many levels. I have seen the reality you describe (human neglect). The church can (and must) find ways to honour and care for people in human ways who are nearing the end of life.
I want what you say to be true but the problem is the, “church”.
We/me have allowed our cultural/political/economic imperatives to form our Christian identities rather then our Christian identities forming our imperatives. We are apparently 1.2 billion people strong but I tell you in all honesty, Ryan aside from Sunday worship, I have never spent a day in my life where I could honestly say, “Yes, this is a Christian place, these are Christian people and we live Christian lives. We are compromised to the core.
I wonder what Jesus thinks of us….how we will be judged…to us that are given so much. The keys of the kingdom. The word. The truth. How could the world know such poverty, when 1.2 billion of us know what we know.
The problem is us.
I actually don’t wonder what Jesus thinks of us… Which is kinda terrifying.
Christ have mercy.