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Genesis

I left the jail this morning feeling a heaviness that I have not felt in some time. I don’t go there each Monday with some big agenda—I’m not there to reform or convert or instruct, but to listen, to pray, to encourage. But most days, I get a glimpse of goodness through a conversation, a smile, a new insight into the human heart and the human predicament. Today was not one of those days.

Travis* was the only one who came to the meeting today. There were rumours of others who might join, but he came alone, looking slightly apprehensive, a sly grin poking around the edges of his mouth. He was tall, lean, young, and strong. Twenty years old, jet black hair perfectly manicured in the fashion of the day, tattoos and scars peeking below the rolled-up sleeves of his coveralls. He offered his story in bits and pieces over the next hour or so. He grown up on a reserve north of Edmonton, one of sixteen kids in a patchwork family thrown together by the various configurations his parents had found themselves in over the years. Dad abused mom, mom abused him as an outlet for her pain, he abused right back, swearing, stealing, leaving, coming back. Kicked out of the house at fourteen and then bounced around the city with siblings.

“I got behaviour issues,” he says. “I yell when I get excited, only when I get excited. I say what I don’t want to say, and I can’t say what I want to say.” He leans back on his chair, eyes restlessly darting around the room. He hasn’t seen his mom for two years, has no idea about his dad, doesn’t really care. He’s got two kids of his own, he says. I look at him and smile. He reminds me of my son—big, kind, unpredictable hard to read sometimes. He told me he played football and basketball and volleyball when he was younger. “I liked sports, he said, “I was good at them.” His voice trailed off. My heart ached for this big kid, impossibly already a father.

“What are your kids’ names?” I ask. “My daughter’s name is Genesis,” he replies. “My son… um, I don’t know. His mom won’t talk to me… I think he’s mine, I don’t know.” He looks down as an awkward silence descends. “Genesis,” I say, “that’s a cool name. Do you know what it means?” He smiles, “Yeah, it means like new beginning or something, right?” I smile. “Yeah, that’s right, Travis…”

He goes on to tell us that he has Tourette’s. He’s never been formally diagnosed, he’s never even told anyone, but he’s pretty sure that’s why he finds everything so hard, why he’s always getting into trouble, why he can’t fit in and just behave himself. I think of a boy growing up on a reserve, impossible family situation, with a condition that nobody knows about, constantly getting into trouble, nobody knowing how to help, how to make anything better, how to try something different.

I think about what might happen when he gets out in a few months. I think about the religious words I traffic in—words like “hope” and “love” and “change” and “freedom” and “redemption.” I look over at Travis, head down, eyes on the floor, all alone in a circle of churchy do-gooders trying to “make a difference.” The words don’t seem to fit. I think of the cycles of violence and addiction and dysfunction that he has been raised in, of the structures and systems that relentlessly discriminate against his people, of the innumerable things that are working against him. It’s too much, I think. Who can climb out from under all that?

During yesterday’s sermon I reflected on what Jesus might have been experiencing as he sat outside the gates of Jerusalem, taking his first steps toward his inevitable death. I focused on the human emotions and experiences that might have been roiling around in his head. I reflected on these things through the lens of Psalm 31 and landed on the hopeful truth that God knows what it’s like to be human.

I preached these words:

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be deeply and persistently misunderstood.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be betrayed by people that you love, people you had poured the best part of yourself into, people you expected better from, people from whom you had hoped for more.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be afraid, to have that sinking feeling of dread in your stomach, to have your mouth go dry and your strength fail.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to feel helpless and angry at the inevitability of how things tend to go.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to feel like the bad guys always win.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to feel used—to be loved and adored only when you’re giving people what they want, when you’re putting on a show.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be abandoned and to feel utterly alone.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be mocked, ridiculed, dismissed.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to be seen as a failure.

Because of Jesus, God knows what it’s like to suffer and to die.

These are some of the hardest things we experience as human beings. And because of Jesus, God not only knows what they feel like, but enters right into them with us.

God knows what it’s like to be human from the inside.

Because of Jesus.

I spoke these words yesterday morning to a room full of mostly white, mostly middle-class, mostly Christians. And they felt hopeful and good and true. They still do. Mostly.

But would these words be of any use to Travis? I desperately want to believe that they would, and I hope to get the chance to tell him. But they felt hollow as I walked out of the jail this morning. I felt like weeping for all the Travis’ of the world who seem to barely have a chance.

I thought about Travis’s daughter, the one he hoped to meet one day.

Genesis.

That’s the only religious word that seemed to fit today.

7 Comments Post a comment
  1. Patricia #

    I think that God is not only in the one who is betrayed, disappointed, marginalized, but also in the betrayer, the one who disappoints, and the the one who marginalizes. God knows it all, and weeps…

    April 15, 2019
    • Thank you, Patricia.

      April 16, 2019
  2. mike #

    …..I’m without words here,Ryan. ____Know that I weep with you…

    April 15, 2019
    • I appreciate this, Mike.

      April 16, 2019
  3. mike #

    @ Patricia. thank you for making a profoundly important point!

    April 15, 2019
  4. Ed Friesen #

    This reminded me of the many young people I/we knew in Calgary at Eastside Victory. Many have stories that are almost identical to Travis’ story. It seems there is so little you can offer in terms of answers or help. I feel for him and remember how many times we spoke to people in the same situation, but also many who had fought their way out of the same kind of lifestyle. I pray for him and others like him and know there are answers if they will bravely seek and find. God have mercy on us all!

    May 1, 2019
    • Thank you, Ed. I pray for the same.

      May 2, 2019

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