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Control Yourself!

A new year looms on the horizon and with it, thoughts of new beginnings, life changes, the sloughing off of old, destructive habits, etc, etc. If there is a practice that is more widely and enthusiastically embraced with less empirical evidence to ground its optimism than the New Year’s Resolution, I am not aware of it. Rare is the occasion when our resolve makes it past, say January 15. It’s just too difficult to control ourselves.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been sporadically dipping into a book called Willpower by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney. Among the topics addressed by the authors are our (in)ability to control ourselves, the source of willpower, how to maximize it, and why it is such an elusive commodity.

One of the interesting things that research into this “greatest human strength” is showing is that willpower is a resource that we have in very finite quantities, and that rather than screwing up our determination to just control ourselves, a more suitable approach would be to manage and distribute it wisely. As is the case with any expenditure of energy, our willpower reserves are depleted with use. So, if you’ve spent the morning heroically resisting that piece of chocolate cake or cigarette, chances are you’re not going to have as much in the tank to hit the treadmill in the afternoon or tackle that disciplined reading program in the evening. When it comes to willpower, the general message of this book seems to be that you’ve only got so much of it, so decide how you’re going to use it.

By contrast, biblical injunctions to self-control seem downright simplistic. Hopelessly naive, even! Over and over, in the Apostle Paul’s letters, the stark command rings out: “be self-controlled.” “Put off what is evil and destructive.” “Put on the new (better) self!” “Just do it!” Paul clearly knows little about such things as “ego-depletion” and the crucial contrast between “short-term and long-term payoffs.” Paul obviously has a minimal understanding of the limited nature of our willpower reservoirs and the complexities of managing them for maximal personal/social benefit. “Be self-controlled?!” As if things were that simple.

And yet… The Bible’s portrayal of human nature is also accurate, if in different ways from the picture painted by the behavioural scientists. The language employed in describing the problem is somewhat different, as are the resources offered for addressing it and the ends to which willpower is thought to be best employed. But both bear witness to the basic truth that is poetically expressed by the wisdom writers: “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control” (Proverbs 25:28). Both agree that an undisciplined life is foolish, dangerous, and destructive. Both agree that exercising the muscles of self-control is a crucial part of what it means to flourish as human beings.

Ultimately, of course, self-control is a gift. And, like all of God’s good gifts, it is a gift that we can live into. Like all of God’s gifts, self-control is something we can work into our lives and do what we can to make it an expression of who we are as God’s children. We can employ the helpful resources and insights yielded by scientific research to bear the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-24). Perhaps more importantly, though, as followers of Jesus we can live according to our conviction that, whatever it might feel like at any given moment, we are always in the process of putting on our new selves—selves that are “being renewed” in the knowledge and image of our Creator (Colossians 3:9-11).

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  1. Paul Johnston #

    Perhaps even St. Paul recognized the limitations and contradictions of his own will. Romans 7 would seem to say so. (One of the few self revealing and humble accounts of his person that his letters offer. I wish there were more of them)….

    The material paradox seems to be, how can what seems to be inherently insufficient and at times openly contradictory and dysfunctional within the will, be remedied as an act of will?
    How does what is “broken” fix itself?

    December 28, 2011
    • Well, the research seems to indicate that, like any other changes we hope to make in our lives, small steps and practice are part of the answer. This seems to comport well with biblical themes of being constantly renewed and “putting on” Christ. It’s slow, incremental, and at times painful. And it’s work. I suspect this was as true for Paul as it is for us, as the passage from Romans you cite very ably demonstrates.

      December 29, 2011
      • Tyler #

        Sounds like habituation…

        December 31, 2011
      • Yes, it certainly does :).

        December 31, 2011
  2. In 2004 I was swimming three times a week, up to 800 yards per session. I remember feeling so proud of myself, able to compare myself to those men who get up each day at 5 am and run 5 miles. It felt like I was at least remotely like them. But then, for some reason, I just stopped. And once you stop, then you lose momentum, and it is so hard to regain it. That has been the story of my life: these brief experiences of self-control, along with a feeling of pride, but then thwarted at some point by self-sabotage. It is almost like there is in me a fear of succeeding, and I do not know what causes it. Sorry, you are not my therapist. But this is what I think of when the topic of self-control comes up.

    December 28, 2011
    • Ah, what you describe here is so familiar to me… Self-control so often seems like that land of promise that can only be viewed from afar… The sentiments you express here are ones that I know very well.

      December 29, 2011

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